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A male athlete reaches upward during a fitness competition inside a stadium, with judges and other competitors visible in the background.

He Was Done — I Still Had to Tell Him It Wasn’t Enough

His legs were shak­ing before he even went down into the next squat. He stood in front of me at the wall ball sta­tion with that look peo­ple get when they are no longer real­ly decid­ing any­thing. They are just try­ing to keep the body mov­ing for one more rep, then one more, then some­how anoth­er. He picked up the ball, dropped down, came back up, threw, caught it. I watched the move­ment and called it straight away: no rep. Not because he missed the tar­get. Because he had not gone low enough.

A person uses a hand plane to smooth a piece of wood on a workbench in a well-organized workshop with tools mounted on the wall.

You’re Not Your Job. Fine. Now What?

It usu­al­ly hap­pens in a very ordi­nary moment. Some­one asks what you do. At din­ner. On a train. Between two meet­ings. You answer almost auto­mat­i­cal­ly, but not quite. There is always that tiny pause before the sen­tence lands. »I’m a lawyer.« »I’m in health care.« »I’m a car­pen­ter.« »I work in mar­ket­ing.« It sounds like a small dif­fer­ence. It isn’t. Because in that moment, you are not just shar­ing infor­ma­tion. You are reveal­ing a rela­tion­ship to your work, and maybe to yourself.

A tattooed person in a short dress balances with outstretched arms while walking along the edge of a rooftop, with city buildings and a clear sky in the background.

Free somebody

You did every­thing right. You stud­ied. You worked hard. You built the résumé peo­ple told you to build. Degree, intern­ships, late nights, pro­mo­tions. The qui­et promise behind all of it was sim­ple: if you put in the effort, you would even­tu­al­ly gain some­thing that feels like freedom.

Person wearing a VR headset seated in a tilted motion-simulator cockpit inside a blue-lit arcade room.

Welcome to the Hiring Simulator — the Strategy Game Nobody Enjoys

There’s this sto­ry we keep telling about the job mar­ket: it’s tough out there. Fine. I can live with that. And I’m say­ing this as some­one cur­rent­ly in it — reori­ent­ing on the way to my next role. I’m hav­ing con­ver­sa­tions, doing calls, send­ing appli­ca­tions, wait­ing, look­ing close­ly at what’s out there. And there’s this slight­ly sur­re­al expe­ri­ence of try­ing to meet a sys­tem where it is, with­out let­ting it define me.